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Big Daddy's House
08-15-2010, 02:34 PM
Have you ever offered to cook or make something to eat for one of more people, bring some of the food over to them, and later on, they blatently & flat-out complain to you, telling you that it either wasn't done enough or that it had too much garlic or whatever the case may be, it is something that you made and they seem to constantly want to find fault with it with their rude ungratefulness and snobbish snotty-nosed behavior?! Acting like they can cook far better than you can?!!! Or even when doing them any kind of favor, and it doesn't have to invovle cooking?

I have two very close friends, a couple who live up the street who I've known now for a year. I also have another friend to lives up the street as well. He doesn't complan at all about my cooking, as he truly enjoys it when I have him over and I offer him something that I'm cooking or have already cooked..

But the couple, as of late, has been complaining at just about every favor that I've done for them, and it doesn't just include my cooking!

Even when I give them a ride to shop for groceries, to the hospital or most other places!!

They're complaining to me that in the parking lot either I park too far from the store door or that I took too long coming back to get them from the hospital!! That is or was MY favor to them!! They've got absolutely no business complaing at me about a free favor or other service to them as a friend to them!!!!!

Last weekend, I was at my sister's house, celebrataing her granddaughter's and her husband's birthday with them. They always have a cookout in the backyard for this special occasion, and other small children are also invited over to join in on the festivities with us and have some fun.

Well anyway, I got a call from the couple in my neighbohood, telling me that the pie crust for the sweet potato pie that I made wasn't done!!! The nerve of them!!! My other friend had no problem with the pie. He said that it was fine and that he's ENJOYING it!!!

I'm at my sister's house, attending a party / cookout, and THAT is what they do?!! They couldn't wait to tell me that later on, like maybe the next day, and in a much nicer way?!!

Then, they complained to me just the other day that some of the meat loaf that I brought over to them a few weeks ago, had too much garlic in it!!! I told them that that is the way that I cook and that if they want any of it, then don't complain, otherwise i won't give then any more of my cooking. They KNOW this already!! Earlier this past spring, I made some onion gravy over there to go with the pork chops that I fried. The chops seemed fine, but they complained about the gravy, saying that it was lumpy when I know that it was NOT!!!

My mom has always taught us to be nice and thankful to people when they do us one or more favors, because you never know when you might need another one.

To me, it would seem quite obvious that these two are blatently looking a gift horse in the mouth!!! Seems that they are never satisified and are way too ungratedful for some of the favors that I've done for them!!!!! I stil like them, but enough is enough!!! I'm tired of doing these favors for them and all they do is complain!!!!!

When someone does a favor for another, no matter how small or large, I thought that the person(s) receiving the favor is supposed to be grateful and not say anything harsh about it. Just accept the thought of it and the favor, in and of itself. But not THESE two!!!

Told another friend about it. He said; "Don't do anything else for them as far as favors go. They are obviously looking a gift horse in the mouth.", which they truly are.

I'll still be they're friend, but I'm seriously considering distancing myself from them because of this!! It truly grates on my nerves that they want favors, but then, they're always finding fault with some of them as well!! They've helped ME a lot, and I've never once complained that I know of. They've messed up on meals also, that I was invited over for to share with them. I've never said anything harsh about their cooking.

So why can't they just shut up keep their insulting complaints to themselves and stop making me feel like I'm nothing but a fall guy because they want to find fault with me when I try to help them?

Nothing wrong at all about being a little bit outspoken, but at times, they are TOO BRUTALLY outspoken!! I believe that there's a time to say something and there's NOT a time to complain, such as when I call myself doing a favor for them!!!

And BTW, one of my other nieces was over, and she even complained about the pies (I brought four over for my sister.)!!! But she took one home anyway and didn't even check with my sister to see if it was ok!!!!! I just hate it when people complain about your cooking or otrher favors, but they want them anyway!!!! What nerve they got to do that!

My favors to anyone is always a courtesy and a token of my friendship. But some want to have their cake and eat it also!! What is the sense in going out on a limb, trying to help people if it seems like all they want to do is complain and be so blasted ungrateful?!!!

Big Daddy's House
08-16-2010, 09:54 PM
I told them this evening that even though I think that they are good people, that they are very insulting when they complain like that about something that isn't costing them a dime!!

What if I were to charge them for the favors that I've done for them? They'd REALLY fly off the panhandle then!!!

Roberta
08-17-2010, 09:24 AM
Some people are like that. They do not live in gratitude. If possible, I just try to avoid people like that. They are a drain on my energy.

Big Daddy's House
08-17-2010, 03:20 PM
Not to mention being downright insulting, annoying and grating on your nerves when you go out on a limb for them and it seems as though they got their noses stuck so high in the air that you have to practically break your neck to talk to them!!!

I'm going to nip this in the bud, start showing them some tough love and let them go back to taking the bus to the hospital, to go shopping and whatever else have you.

There's an old saying that says; You don't miss your water until the well runs dry. Well, they're going to miss their water. They've gotten spoiled and then they complain when something isn't to THEIR liking?!! Oh no, this isn't going to fly no more!!!

Whoopie Pie
08-18-2010, 10:11 AM
The first time they complained about my cooking would be the last time they had the opportunity to do so. I have no room in my life for people like that!

Roberta
08-18-2010, 05:24 PM
I am with you all the way, Whoopie Pie.

Big Daddy's House
08-18-2010, 06:24 PM
You're both right!!

First I'll let them wonder why I haven't cooked anything for them for a while, or anything else, and when they ask me why I haven't done any favors for them, the answer will be; "Well, you guys complained too much for me, and it was very insulting, not to mention being so ridiculously ungrateful. Either you both change your ways, or I WON'T DO ANYTHING ELES for you at all."

Big Daddy's House
08-20-2010, 05:36 AM
Yeah, blatently, and right in front of other company at that time, the woman came right out and said; "You can't make gravy like I can. Yours is too lumpy."

What a hit below the belt!!! I better not hear anything else bad about my cooking from them, and if I do, that is it!! No more blasted favors!!!

She made some American Chop Suey yesterday, not the best that I'VE HAD, BUT I didn't complain at all. The green peppers are always in large chunks, which I HATE that!! But I didn't complain at all.

Semigourmet
08-23-2010, 10:35 AM
Yeah, RUDE Very RUDE! Don't cook anything for them anymore!! they obviously don't apprecieate it at all! I would just wait for them to ask Why you weren't cooking anything for them anymore, then would tell them that it seems like everything I made was bad, too lumpy, not cooked to someones likeness, and just plain not liked so I'm done. then I would complain about someone elses dish. LOL

Sorry, BDH, that sucks!!

PurpleCat
08-23-2010, 11:02 AM
Sounds like they are jealous of you and your cooking. I would say let the relationship peter out or just end it, and no more favours. You are too good-hearted. You can't win with people like that. There are many who would love to have you for a friend.

Wild Rice
08-23-2010, 02:40 PM
Sound like killjoys to me. They know you love to cook and it gives you joy to do so. They get joy out of taking your joy away by complaining. Honestly, there are people who only get joy by sucking it out of others. Killjoy. It sounds like a mean bird, doesn't it?

Big Daddy's House
08-23-2010, 03:40 PM
Yes It DOES!! They ARE killjoys.

They are ridiculously complaining about the free services that I'm doing out of the kindness of my heart for them, yet they got the audacity to complain as though they paid for the services that are for free!!!

Which is why they are going to be charged for milage like a taxicab does, from now on, if they want a ride from me to go anywhere.

Leolady
08-30-2010, 04:32 PM
With friends like that who needs enemies?

Big Daddy's House
08-30-2010, 07:29 PM
Roger that!