Evil walks amongst us!

[Leolady]

My father did not have a son, so he was extremely fond of a particular nephew. :(

Well, dad became ill while we were estranged and was unable to live by himself. I took what I thought was an attempt to reach out to me, decided to try one last time for a reconciiation sp] with dad, and moved in with him to care for him at home. I thought we were doing well together, and I was working hard with his in-home health care program. Then, suddenly my cousin came on the scene -- bag and baggage and told me that my services were no longer needed and I had to go!:mad:

I found out that dad had invited this cousin to live with us to take care of dad, and that dad did not want to make more attempts to follow his health care program. I also found out that my cousin was determined to "boot me out of dad's home". Although dad did not do this, he made it clear to me that my care was no longer needed and that he preferred NOT to do anything necessary to extend my dad's life.

It became a constant battle to try to get dad to have the surgery he needed, and eat in a healthy way. My dad became paranoid that the health care providers were plotting against him, and my cousin aided and abetted this paranoia to the extent that dad's cancer surgery was delayed for 2 months.

This cousin threatened me, said he would shoot my cat [my cousin has a LOT of guns], tried pyschological mind games to control me, tried to drive a wedge in my crumbling relationship with my dad, tried to get my sister and I to argue, and generally was attempting to bully and intimidate me. None of these things worked, but I have to give my cousin props for tenacity.

My cousin attempted to sign hospital paperwork when my sister & I had dad's durable power of attorney. He had tried to bully the hospital staff into transferring my dad to a hospital of my cousin's choice -- even though my dad did not want to go to the hospital my cousin chose.

When dad died, my cousin attempted to drive me from my dad's home. He has threatened legal action, tried to get the police to remove me forcibly, and when I changed the locks on the doors, he said in the presence of the police that he would kick the doors in.

The police asked HIM to leave once they found out that dad had filed an automatic deed transfer form with the courthouse; that gave my sister and I title to our home immediately upon dad's death. The police had to be called twice when my cousin came to my home making threats. Even though he had been instructed that to get his property, he had to make an appointment with me ahead of time, and be escorted and supervised by the police -- my cousin had come anyway!:eek:

So, all of my future plans have been changed which necessitiated a change in the title of my photo bucket albums. I will be keeping the family home and living here.

All of this drama has taken a lot of my time, energy, and resources. That is why you have not seen me online. And since my cousin was affording me so much negative energy, I haven't even been able to properly grieve for my dad. And my most painful thoughts revolve around the fact that the healing and reconciliation I tried to accomplish with my dad was sabotaged and never occurred as it should have.:mad:

So, I am saying all of this so you understand why I have not been around. I would appreciate any support you guys can give me.

[Big Daddy's House]

My father did not have a son, so he was extremely fond of a particular nephew. :(

Well, dad became ill while we were estranged and was unable to live by himself. I took what I thought was an attempt to reach out to me, decided to try one last time for a reconciiation sp] with dad, and moved in with him to care for him at home. I thought we were doing well together, and I was working hard with his in-home health care program. Then, suddenly my cousin came on the scene -- bag and baggage and told me that my services were no longer needed and I had to go!:mad:

I found out that dad had invited this cousin to live with us to take care of dad, and that dad did not want to make more attempts to follow his health care program. I also found out that my cousin was determined to "boot me out of dad's home". Although dad did not do this, he made it clear to me that my care was no longer needed and that he preferred NOT to do anything necessary to extend my dad's life.

It became a constant battle to try to get dad to have the surgery he needed, and eat in a healthy way. My dad became paranoid that the health care providers were plotting against him, and my cousin aided and abetted this paranoia to the extent that dad's cancer surgery was delayed for 2 months.

This cousin threatened me, said he would shoot my cat [my cousin has a LOT of guns], tried pyschological mind games to control me, tried to drive a wedge in my crumbling relationship with my dad, tried to get my sister and I to argue, and generally was attempting to bully and intimidate me. None of these things worked, but I have to give my cousin props for tenacity.

My cousin attempted to sign hospital paperwork when my sister & I had dad's durable power of attorney. He had tried to bully the hospital staff into transferring my dad to a hospital of my cousin's choice -- even though my dad did not want to go to the hospital my cousin chose.

When dad died, my cousin attempted to drive me from my dad's home. He has threatened legal action, tried to get the police to remove me forcibly, and when I changed the locks on the doors, he said in the presence of the police that he would kick the doors in.

The police asked HIM to leave once they found out that dad had filed an automatic deed transfer form with the courthouse; that gave my sister and I title to our home immediately upon dad's death. The police had to be called twice when my cousin came to my home making threats. Even though he had been instructed that to get his property, he had to make an appointment with me ahead of time, and be escorted and supervised by the police -- my cousin had come anyway!:eek:

So, all of my future plans have been changed which necessitiated a change in the title of my photo bucket albums. I will be keeping the family home and living here.

All of this drama has taken a lot of my time, energy, and resources. That is why you have not seen me online. And since my cousin was affording me so much negative energy, I haven't even been able to properly grieve for my dad. And my most painful thoughts revolve around the fact that the healing and reconciliation I tried to accomplish with my dad was sabotaged and never occurred as it should have.:mad:

So, I am saying all of this so you understand why I have not been around. I would appreciate any support you guys can give me.



1. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad. Please accept my most sincer condolences. I, also, lost my dad to cancer in '86.

2. I'm also so sorry to hear that you & your sister were forced to deal with & try to endure the evil intentions of your disrespectful and dispicable cousin.

3. At least, though i know that it isn't the way that you would have liked for it to be, your dad isn't suffering any more, and is in a better place.

4. As for you cousin, well, it's been said that God does not like ugly and cares very little for prettiness, he'll get his in the end. I don't wish him dead at all, but what he did was so wrong, downright lowdown and dirty, not to mention it possibly being irrepairable damage!

But I'm so glad that he didn't get the house.

I hope in the end, that things will work out well, and that you & sis are able to find closure in all of this, as well as being able to reflect back on the good times that you both shared with your dad before he became ill.

Sorry about photobucket closing your account. Keep us posted, please, and good luck with the outcome of it all.

[Leolady]

Thank you for your sympathy and your caring words.

I found out recently that this "cousin" gave my dad a car, but after dad invested hundreds of dollars in getting the car refurbished, my cousin kept the title in his own name and has since "repossessed" the car.

Dad bought a vintage refurbished Model T ford and when my cousin was trusted to get dad's title for the vehicle, my cousin put his own name on the title application as "joint owner" and he has taken this vehicle also.

This cousin also snuck into the basement and unlocked the garage doors [while the police were not looking] so he could get into the house without my knowledge. I don't know if he intended to sneak in the house to hurt me or if he planned to steal more stuff. But I went through the house and re-locked all entrances before he had a chance to do anything.

So far, this cousin has gotten away with taking both cars -since it would cost more in attorney's fees than the vehicles are worth to fight for them. And his thief of dad's property has caused dad's estate to be worth thousands less than it should be.

So when I state that evil is a true force in the world..........I am referring to those folks like my cousin.

[Big Daddy's House]

You're welcome!

Get a restraining order to keep him at bay. Change ALL of the locks on the doors. No telling if or not he has keys to anything, but it's better to be safe then sorry.

This cousin has hurt you & sis enough, and if you don't swing into action and stop him, then he'll just keep on doing what he's doing.

Shit stinks, it rubs off and the smell travels! Meaning that your cousin has a very bad reputation, and don't have anything else to do with him! People will see him for what he truly is; Worthless, evil, coniving and and no good.

[Dough Boy]

Rather bizarre story, but I have to admit it's not the first time I've heard a similar story. It's sad when there are conflicts in a family, especially during teh final days of a loved one.

[Leolady]

The latest in the saga is that my cousin knew there was a loan on the model T car -- I didn't!

He went to dad's bank and told the loan officer where dad borrowed the money in his name alone, that the car would be at my home, and that the estate would pay off the loan. Then he came to my house, didn't tell me about the loan outstanding on the car, and took it! The police witnessed this cause they were there to protect me.

Now the loan people at the bank are after him -- possibily for fraud/theft And yesterday my cousin's wife came over to "move some things from their bedroom" . Dad had just bought one of those Edenpure heaters [you know they are expensive] and I had found the paperwork proving HE bought it and sat it amongst some other papers on the dining table. Well, you guessed it, after the wife left, my proof had "disappeared".

Some folks just have to be watched constantly!!

[Big Daddy's House]

First off; Don't even let them in the house!!!

Change you phone # and don't give them the new one. Change your e-mail address also, because even if they can't get into the house, they can still do devious and dirty work on the outside by hacking your computer with some kind of blaster worm or a link to a bogus website that might have corrupted files a viruses to kill your computer or screw it up so badly that you can't use it.

Secondly; Get a restraining order to keep them BOTH at bay. If they come to within 50 feet of the house, then they would be arrested and charged for distubing the peace.. Cut off ALL ties with them IMMEDIATELY!!!


Thirdly; Don't have anything else to do with them at all. Get an attourney if you don't already have one and sue them for the crap that they put you through.

Seems as though the minute that you turn your back, they are up to no good, and stuff just seems to "magically disappear" or "walk" from right from under your nose!

You say that the loan bank is after him possibly for fraud? Well, I'd give the bank a heads-up on where he might be or lives! What goes around comes around! Him him where it hurts. Right in his pocket!!

There ARE harrassment laws that should help protect you from those two shitstains. I think that it's high time that you start doing some spring cleaning and throw them out of the house just like the nasty stinking worthless pieces of garbage that they are!! Don't let them do this to you.

I think you are a very caring person like myself, but don't let your guard down and let those jerks waltz into your house and just walk all over you